Discover How to Talk to Your children About Today’s
Most Difficult Issues So That They Have All the Information
& Advice They Need to Make Godly Decisions in the Future!
Perfect for mothers of Children Age 12 & Younger and shows mothers How to Approach “HARD discussion” from a Christian Perspective!
Nobody said being a mother was going to be easy and probably one of the most difficult things for all mothers is having those “tough conversations” with our children.
You know the conversations I’m talking about – the ones about sex, drugs, bullying etc
Today, we live in a complex world that is filled with issues that are not only difficult for children to go through but also difficult for parents to discuss and provide good advice on.
Many parents begin to dread having these conversations with their children, many others desperately want to have these conversations with their children but don’t know what to say. But here’s the thing – if we don’t talk to our children early and often about these issues they will eventually get answers from someone else. The bible says “Train up a child in the way the he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it” Prov.22:6
This means we will be missing a good opportunity to give our children accurate information and to pass along our personal Godly values and biblical principles.
To help ensure mothers don’t miss these opportunities to have important discussions with their children since they are the first mentors to their children, we have a road map for Christian Mothers!
The Check List
- I know how awkward those conversations can go. Often the words just won’t come easily, such as when we try to discuss sexual behavior.
- If we are not careful, we can come off like lecturers, which can be a turn-off to our children, who may be seeking a more open and honest conversation style.
- And if our tone sounds the slightest big accusatory, children can take exception, thinking we are accusing them of a behavior they would not dream of (of course, many times a bad behavior is nothing a teen would dream of doing a week before it happens or even a day before).
- Most of what we have to tell our children about good behavior concerns times and places when we are not with them, such as school, parties, get-togethers at other people’s homes, or get-togethers in our house where the presence of kids makes us feel banned from the room.
- We have to rely on what they tell us, which, after a certain age, can be precious little.
- We can feel basically clueless as to if our help and advice would make an impact.
So to help alleviate awkwardness and ensure understanding, here’s what I’ve done, I’ve created a guide that is filled with proven effective principles that Christian mothers regularly use .
Now I realize that we all have different parenting styles as mothers and that some of these tips will work for you and others may just not seem right. But the beauty of this guide is that you will be able to pick and choose only the methods you feel comfortable with to get the results you want.
This way you can feel confident that you are reaching your child and giving them much needed information and advice.
Each Reflection contains a powerful message to draw your child closer to Jesus and is drawn from situations that happen in real life, such as:
|Sexual Behavior (abstinence)|
|Sexual Behavior (consequences of actions)|
|Drugs (& alcohol)|
|Cheating in school|
But Why Do You Need to Have These Conversations
with Your child when they are so Young?
Now I know many of you are saying, “Isn’t before age 12 too soon for some of these conversations?”
In a word, “NO.”
The truth is, talking to teenagers can be nearly impossible if there was no talking done earlier. The reason is that in their teen years children enter into the psychological passage called “differentiation,” or “individuation.” This basically means that they have begun to realize they are separate individuals, not necessarily a reflection of their family unit.
Mothers can quickly identify when their children begin this passage. Often it is right around the age of 12. Children may become distant and are not quite the little angels mothers were so used to having around the house.
In other words, it’s better to reach these children before this period begins than to try to reach them during that phase of their lives.
“The Tough Talks” is filled with tools and information to help you reach your child …
Let take a Look at some for principles.
|Proven-effective principles that are guaranteed to create better communication between parents and kids – just follow these principles and you’ll be amazed at how your child responds to your “talks”!|
|The one thing you MUST DO if you want your child to truly listen to you when you are trying to talk to him or her! Give them space to express|
|Start this tough conversation with your child as a friend and mentor in a very relaxed atmosphere and your child listen to you like never before!|
|Begin with question like “Do you know what sex is all about “ and put on a smiling face, note that your child is watching to see your facial expression and this will determine if they want to continue the talk.|
|With this foundation, face the major challenges of abstinence in today’s fast-paced, everything-happens-at-a-younger-age society!|
|Bring in Biblical principles that will help your child embrace abstinence and not endanger their hearts or the hearts of others!|
|Explain the real value of abstinence to your child.|
|Give insight to help child understand the psychological, physical and spiritual consequences of premarital sex!|
|Tell your child what God really expects from you as a mother when it comes to teaching your children about sex!|
|Now bring up the negatives side of drugs to their lives even when their friends/peers are saying it is great, as part of what God expects you as a mother to teach your child.|
|Check that your child is not lost and then ask How are under pressure to try drugs? Children really go a lot and see what you can do to dramatically ease that pressure if the answer is positive.|
|Draw our simple rules that will help keep your child from drinking alcohol or taking drugs … plus, tips you can give your child to help them withstand peer pressure and choose not to take drugs or drink even when it seems like everyone else is. The bible can give you guide lines|
|if your child “under the influence” of drugs or alcohol to ensure that it doesn’t happen again, you can also seek help.|
|Find a way to make sure your child understands the consequences of shoplifting before he or she is tempted to try it!|
|How to explain the real consequences of bullying and ensure your child doesn’t bully anyone else … also how to teach your child to respond to bullies to protect themselves and others!|
|With technological advances it’s easier to cheat in school than ever before, here I’ll show you how to drive home the consequences of cheating to your child so that he or she is never tempted to cheat in the future!|
|And much, much more!|
Remember, my goal is to provide mothers like you with all the material you need to not just have these difficult conversations with your children but to feel comfortable while you are doing it.
This guide will provide you with everything you need to talk to your children about complex issues in a way that suits you and your family, and in a way that would be approved by God.
So what are you waiting for?