They say being a parent is the toughest job in the world. For some it can certainly feel that way especially during the teenage years.
Many parents feel stressed by their teenager’s behavior and worry about whether it is normal. We will look at changes children go through in their teenage years, and how we parents can deal with the effect of bad behavior.
A teenager is a young person whose age falls within the range from 13-19 years. They are called teenagers because their age number ends with ‘’teens’’. Teenager’s behavior can be stressful, worrisome and baffling at times, but in most cases it doesn’t mean that there is anything more serious going on, other than the natural process of becoming an adult which is the puberty stage.
During this stage there are surges of hormones combined with changes in their body and an uncomfortable sensitive about your physical appearance. They struggle to find an identity, they receive pressure from friends and developing sense of independence, all these means that the teenage years are a confusing time for your child and would definitely need your attention to details as a parent.
These changes in personality may be natural or hormonal but it doesn’t mean as a parent you don’t feel hurt and worried by then. You as a parent remember that they have physical reasons for behaving in the ways that are so difficult to live with. They are probably not enjoying it either.
You are the adult and the matured one and it’s your responsibility to guide them through the difficult times.
HOW TO COPE WITH THE STRESS
- Always get a good night rest/sleep
- Cultivate a healthy eating habit
- Get time to relax and have a break from your children
- Get regular exercise
- Get counseling from professionals.
HOW TO ACT WITH A TEENAGER
- Remember you are a role model for a teenager: They view you and decide the things you do, so if you portray the wrong things, they emulate it and vice versa. For example if they see you smoking, drinking or taking hard substance, they will see that as a green light to do the same themselves. And they won’t listen to you when you caution them.
- Give them your time: It is paramount you allow them the time to be with you and talk to you when it seems right for them. And make sure you listen to them when they want to talk.
- Show them love: Even if they don’t seem responsive, they do need to know you love them.
- Set boundaries: Boundaries allow teenagers to feel safe. Decide what the limits are and then stick to them.
- Don’t bottle up your concerns: If you are worried that your teenage son or daughter might be engaged in activities that could hurt them, confront them and educate them on the harm such activity would do to them and their future.
Lastly, make sure your teenager knows the way of the Lord. Teach them the word of God and always entreat on their behalf. Proverbs 22 v 6(msg) “Point your kids in the right direction when they are old they won’t be lost”.